Monday, September 04, 2006

HAS LOVE LOST ITS VALUE?

It is said that love is the emotion that brings two beings together no matter how different they are. Is it so? Is it really the binding force that brings two souls who may be poles apart together and can people actually spend the rest of their lives with one person? Or can one have more than one true love?

Almost all of us in India get married by the time we are 30, and to people we love. Is 30 the right age to take the biggest decision of your life that you’ve finally met your soul mate!? I wonder!! And what if one meets his or her soul mate after 30 which is very much possible, and if he/she wants to go to him/her then will we call them infidel? Or should they just go on living with the one they married even when they know that they’ll be happier in the other relationship? So the love was never there in the previous relationship. Isn’t it so? So am I right when I say that love has lost its value or should I say that there was no love in the previous relationship and therefore the marriage fell apart?

When one is in love, everything seems new, every day is so beautiful, but how long does this last? In today’s world, well, I’ll say not for long. Everybody may call me a cynic but I believe that love is no longer unconditional now; it has too many strings attached! These days the parameters to decide whether one will be happy in a relationship do not include same level of thinking and interests but money and status. And it’s true with all of us. But then can I call this relationship which is based on money and status instead of trust and respect, LOVE? Is this the new definition of love? Or can we still bring back the notion of unconditional love? Perhaps the notion of unconditional love is only restricted to our pets now. The era of puppy love is over! Or am I right when I say love has become lust. Is it only passion and the pleasure one gets from a relationship that holds two beings together?

Even after trying to find the answers to above asked questions, I still feel it’s not love that has lost its value, the people who have destroyed it by looking it in materialistic terms are to be blamed. If a relationship is solely based on money and status then it cannot be called love. Love is beyond that and I still believe its meaning has not lost the importance. Those who love someone irrespective of materialistic gains and even the physical pleasures will agree with me. We see love all around us and people who are just too fed up with their lives might like to believe otherwise and couples who only look for gains from the other should not insult the word love by calling their relationship love.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Thankfully, I waited till the end of the post. I was getting impatient to write this just after I read the first few lines from your blog. Honestly, you seem a bit too influenced by Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna.
Who is the one you love, and why do you love him?
It is funny but if you can answer the second question then you do not love him. Irony is that if you don't know why you love him then you will keep on loving him unconditionally!

Though I am no authority on love and relationships, all that I want to say is that please don't get dismayed. There would be someone who would meet you before 30 (if you haven't met him already) and you will realize that you needn't look for anyone else.

I wish I could write more here but I do not wish to ruin your blog anymore.

dronamraju said...

well..true love does exist!!..but then yes, bcos of the so called "society" we live in we have to deal with a lot pressure..when i say "we" im refering to the ppl in love...cos ya, i love the bartender at elevate, but then the first question my friends would pop is, "dude,wats she doing?"..hw superficial can one be??...anyone to beat this??...but welcome to the real world::this is the matrix..societal, near and dear ones, evryones invited when someone is in love..u love the person but his world has to be answered by "you"..well,well, gone r the days when one would first marry and then fall in love, with the person..its/ was a compromise! now..i dnt take shit..so i better walk out..cos there are many stars in the sky..well the world is as confused, as cynical, as hypocritical as my words..butttt...

to me, true love is beautiful, it is too powerful to be touched, it is still unconditional(i knw sounds virtual..)but then i knw y am i single even now!!..hahaha

but then being the dreamer that im, i still feel someone out there is still meant to be...whose gonna make the day..nah!! evryday truly special in her own way!!

(did i say im drunk??..lol..)

oj said...

ms.Agonyz Agnani...;)lil angel...wat u sem to be grapplin wid is not onfusion but a lack of discipline in d way u love sum1...(n don read unconditionally here!!)predictibility is a farce...itz like running after trailing clouds long after dey have forgotten d parched lands....datz y like i alwayz tell u...derez sumthin like a sixth sence..dat wrkz well....quite well i don mean to tell u to hang on to it...jus let emotions loose...analyze urslf...n yes respect urslf even if ur starin a guy lukin like a million buckz...seriously!!ur worth a million n even more...n ya m not inflatin egoz here..mind u..itz a sinere effort at tellin u dat sugandha can be better n can do wid a lil more practicality n less emotional blinds...only wen it cumz to ....d troubled landz o'love!!rest..i love u...too much to c u in pain ever,,,tc,god bless...3 yrs r finally ova..letz jus accept it now...n m not sayin a goodbye bt a thanku...thanku 4 lettin into ur wrld of sensitivity...love u sooo much ma lil angel!!!tc

mak said...

nice blog...keep up da good work...
its heartening to find people who love writing...its kinda losing its charm...and as for love, its one emotion in da world, no one has been able to define without allowing their own feeilngs which this wonderful emotion generates, be a part of their definiton...
uve just gotta be in it to know it..
and it would still be your guiding light in moments of uncertainty and doubt in self...as materialistic as it might get, a heart in love knows only one thing...and no amount of lust or passion can change dat...although paying heed to another school of thought, u might say that people evolve and so do da emotions they experience...and alongwith that, changes their perception of love...wat might sem as lust to one, might be da only way to love for another...calls for a nice discussion over a cuppa coffee...and dont bother abt da vicious circle ive put u in as ive brought u back to where u started...but thats wat geminis do...cheers mate..carry on writing...
suri.mak@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

I agree with you totally..nice to see someone else feeling the same way..

Anonymous said...

You see true love is also a lot about character...Whether true love or otherwise there is always that initial high- the thing you described as "everyday being beautiful"...but when that dies down that is the test of true love...so when the love of your life becomes a bit cranky for a while or perhaps gains a lil weight...do you stick around...help him/her through it...do you wait for things to get better...to fall in love with the same person again and again or do you give up! give yourself excuses that "i have the right to be happy" and so walk out...true love is also a lot of inner strength...as I said...about a lot of character...